{"id":6169,"date":"2025-07-11T12:46:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-11T10:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fenestra.sk\/?p=6169"},"modified":"2026-02-11T13:31:19","modified_gmt":"2026-02-11T12:31:19","slug":"myths-uncontrolled-anger-provocation-25","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fenestra.sk\/en\/myths-uncontrolled-anger-provocation-25\/","title":{"rendered":"Violence against Women Is NOT Uncontrolled Anger or Provocation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In society, there is still a widespread belief that men who are violent toward their partners \u201close control,\u201d \u201ccannot manage their emotions,\u201d or act under stress or on impulse. <strong>This is not true<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Research, long-term experience from helping professions, and models of working with perpetrators all clearly show i<strong>ntimate partner violence against women<\/strong> is mostly <strong>deliberate<\/strong>, and <strong>purposeful<\/strong>, aimed at gaining <strong>power and control <\/strong>over the woman.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Abusive men decide <\/strong>when, where, and toward whom they will act violently. They choose the timing, location, and form of violence they will use. Most often, they do not behave violently toward friends, colleagues, or other family members, but only toward their partners\u2014and often only when there are no witnesses present.  <\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Women often describe<\/strong> that their <strong>violent partners intentionally strike them on parts of the body hidden under clothing <\/strong>or in ways that leave no visible marks. Many also report that before attacking, <strong>the partner removes rings, takes their phone, locks the front door, or takes the keys <\/strong>to prevent them from calling for help. Some women say that their partner only physically attacks them <strong>when the children are not home<\/strong>.  <\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is not the behaviour of someone who truly has a problem controlling their anger.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The myth of \u201cprovocation\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This myth about women and violence is often linked to another harmful belief: that women \u201cprovoke\u201d men into violence. This is false and damaging: it <strong>shifts responsibility <\/strong>from the person who chooses to use violence onto the person who experiences it. <\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In abusive relationships, men often label <strong>ordinary behaviours<\/strong> as \u201cprovocation\u201d, such as arriving home later from work, having a different opinion, visiting a friend, or criticizing him. Abusive men often call normal, everyday behaviour \u201cprovocation\u201d while considering their own controlling or abusive behaviour normal. <strong>This attitude <\/strong>implicitly <strong>suggests <\/strong>that under certain circumstances a man has the \u201cright\u201d to act violently. However, no one has the right to abuse or harm other people.  <\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Violence against women is controlled, not impulsive<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Men\u2019s abusive behaviour toward their partners and wives is, in most cases, <strong>deliberate, and controlled<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Blaming women<\/strong> <strong>has <\/strong>clear <strong>negative consequences<\/strong>: it increases stigma, discourages women from reporting violence, and can lead to secondary victimization by institutions or the community. It may also prevent institutions from providing women with the protection they need. Questions like \u201cwhat did she do to provoke him?\u201d are part of the problem. <strong>Effective response<\/strong>s to violence against women <strong>must focus on<\/strong> holding violent men accountable and protecting and supporting women and their children.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As adults, <strong>we have the ability to make choices<\/strong>\u2014if someone provokes us or a relationship is unsafe, we can leave or seek help. <strong>There is no excuse for violence<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Summary:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Women do not in any way \u201ccause\u201d the violence they experience.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Labelling ordinary behaviour as \u201cprovocation\u201d is simply a way for violent men to avoid responsibility<strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Myths that blame women are widespread and create barriers for women seeking help. They can also prevent women from receiving effective protection. <\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As a society, we <strong>must <\/strong>stop blaming women, focus on the actions of perpetrators, and ensure safety and support for women and their children<strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Activities of Fenestra Counselling and Intervention Centre in 2025 are supported by the Ministry of Justice of the Slovak Republic through the grant program for providing professional assistance to victims of crime, the Ministry of Labour, Social Affairs and Family of the Slovak Republic within the grant for promoting gender equality and equal opportunities, and the Ko\u0161ice Self-Governing Region. <\/em><\/p>\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Fenestra bears sole responsibility for the content of this article. <\/em><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In society, there is still a widespread belief that men who are violent toward their partners \u201close control,\u201d \u201ccannot manage their emotions,\u201d or act under stress or on impulse. 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